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Woman’s Heartbreaking Post on Miscarriage Goes Viral
Emily Christine was ecstatic. The Oregon woman was eight weeks pregnant, and looking forward to motherhood. However, a sonogram changed everything.
As she explains in a post on her Facebook page, Emily and husband Dylan Fauver were excited for their ultrasound appointment, eager to see their child for the first time.
“I finally was walked to the back room where I was greeted with a smile from everyone because the happiness from carrying a baby was contagious,” she wrote. “The ultrasound began and I saw the images right in front of me. My heart was beating out of my chest. This was exciting! This was a day my husband and I had been waiting for, for over a year.”
That excitement turned to dread when the images from the ultrasound looked off to Emily, as the pictures didn’t match what she was expecting. Her initial fears of a problem were seemingly confirmed by the technician’s behavior.
“My ultrasound tech was quiet and I just knew,” she wrote. “She left the room and my husband quickly assured me that ‘everything is fine.’ But don’t tell that to a girl who has seen hundreds of ultrasound photos, who has searched Instagram for the hashtag #8weeks to see what her baby now looked like. I knew it wasn’t right and it wasn’t.”
Sure enough, Christine and her husband were told the bad news — her pregnancy had miscarried.
“I remember being afraid to cry,” she wrote. “I didn’t feel as if I deserved to cry because ‘I wasn’t that far along,’ and ‘this happens all the time.’ I remember holding back the tears with every ounce of my being and not being able to look my husband in the face because I knew his pain would break me.”
Emily Christine goes on to describe the unexpected repercussions that came from having a miscarriage:
“She (Emily’s doctor) didn’t tell me I was going to be reminded for weeks to come because my body was going to take that long to ‘clean out.’ She didn’t tell me I was going to have to watch my husband weep. She didn’t tell me how hard it was going to be to tell my mom what had happened. She didn’t tell me that my body was going to continue thinking it was pregnant for weeks to come. She didn’t tell me how hard it was going be to tell people I was fine when I wasn’t. She didn’t tell me that this was going to make me a jealous person overnight. She didn’t tell me how much harder the question, “when are you having kids?” was going to be. And she didn’t tell me that it was going to be so hard losing someone I had never met.”
The heartbroken woman ends the post sending a message to others who’ve suffered miscarriages:
“This is my hope for you…
I hope that you won’t feel alone.
I hope that you let yourself cry.
I hope that you will see the light at the end of the tunnel.
I hope that though your faith will be tested, you will be strong.
I hope you find peace.
I hope you won’t be afraid to try again.
I hope that you don’t blame yourself.
I hope that your friends hug you a little tighter.
I hope that you give someone else hope through your hardship
I hope that you are a light in the darkest of time.
…and I hope that you celebrate that baby’s life as much as you celebrate the next because no matter how short a life, all life deserves to be celebrated and all loss should be mourned.”
Emily’s post has quickly gone viral since she posted it last week. Her initial Facebook post currently has over 24,000 reactions, 31,000 shares, and 4,000 comments. This is perhaps unsurprising since according to the U.S. National Library of Medicine, miscarriages are not uncommon.
The organization’s website states, “Among women who know they are pregnant, 15 to 20 out of every 100 will have a miscarriage. Most miscarriages occur during the first 7 weeks of pregnancy. The rate of miscarriage drops after the baby’s heartbeat is detected.”
Your Daily Dish spoke to Emily Christine about the post, and the massive response she received.
“To be honest, it’s blowing my mind,” she told Your Daily Dish. “I told my husband when I posted it that if I could help ONE person feel less alone, then it would be worth it because it was so hard to post. I shared my story because I felt so alone during my heartbreak and now I’ve had thousands of people from all over the world telling me that I’m not.”
She continued, “I’ve gotten hundreds of messages from people sharing their stories with me and offering their condolences and that’s been so comforting. I feel like finally women are sharing about their heartbreaks and maybe my post gave them the courage to do just that.”
